Accept :A misguided misnomer

So..

D's best friend, A, called up one evening and loudly and emphatically protested my entry into D's life.
He put forth various strong arguments, a multitude of reasons and a series of tough one liners all ending in NO NO NO! Of course a strong independent broadminded educated salaried bengali brahmin was definitely not his idea of a perfect girlfriend for D.
RC is too open ( I wonder how A knew!) was the gist of what I understood! From where A came I gathered that a will to live a happy life and make it one for others wasn't his idea of ideal existence..

I can never forget the night D came to me and said anytime I want to trust you, my friend comes up with alternates to make me do the opposite. I dislike it when people who hardly know me question my integrity and assassinate character. That was one day when I really questioned myself how far would I go, to be ..accepted. As I looked at it, being "open" wasn't bad for me. If nothing it makes me accept an Udaipur Jain with as much equanimity as a Sasaram Bihari, a tam brahm, a Karnataka coorgi or a Behrampur Oriya. It is the same openness which never made me hesitate to stand by D.Impractical and Impulsive as it seemed to many, to my mind it seemed the correct thing to do. I am sure A would have duly objected to me accompanying D to a police station . Being "open" after all is just to be used while one is dating..eh!

As it so happened, me and D parted ways. Life came to a turning point and suddenly it seemed we weren't really biking together. I had hitched a ride on the highway and as nice as the ride was, it was time to walk alone again.. Maybe I should have complained, raved and ranted, screamed and shouted..But then I don't fight loosing battles and D never leaves any exits uncovered! The time had come to accept what we individually were .. he is a simple man and I am an open woman! I never shut the doors and he does not like unbolting them. The one time he did, he had A breathing down his back !!

On facebook D turned single and Voila A jumped to gaYly proclaim that he sure "Liked" it. I am just glad I was "open" enough to agree with A..
Sometimes the first and last acceptance that one need's is not of society and community ,of friends and foes, of husbands and boyfriends of parents and family. The foremost is to accept oneself and be at peace with it.
Never explain yourself. Your friends don’t need it and the A's of this world would never accept it!